Why men naturally avoid responsibility

In our last email, we broke down a kind of chain of connections:

• The moral ailment that leads to nice guy syndrome is neediness;

• Neediness is a product of having an overly external locus of control;

• An external locus of control is what happens when you refuse to take responsibility for yourself.

This leads us to a deep question we must answer as we live in repentance of being nice guys:

Why do men so naturally resist taking responsibility?

This isn’t just a failing of nice guys. Rather, unwillingness to take responsibility naturally affects men in general — and nice guys are one result of this failure.

Consider how you see the same lack of responsibility in people reacting against being nice guys — they will stop being approval-seeking, even becoming quite disagreeable…yet continue to avoid taking the blame for anything.

Same thing with the hyper-patriarchalists. They will react against servant leadership by becoming Barney Fifes who insist on authority…without the accompanying responsibility.