The Secret King Complex and putting random people in their place

We’ve noticed that there are guys out there who can’t resist the urge to message women on dating apps, just to correct them.

They aren’t interested in these women—they just start the conversation in order to issue the correction.

For instance, they’ll see that a girl’s profile says Christian—but her profile photo is immodest. So they strike up a conversation in order to call them to act more modestly, as Christ requires.

This is a bad idea.

Last week we talked about taking a passing dog by the ears. This is a classic example. Larson Hicks recently posted a good exhortation on this: Stay in Your Lane - Larson Hicks - YouTube.

Often this impulse is because men want to exercise authority on behalf of God. But exercising authority requires you to be in the right place on the hierarchy. God delegates his power to husbands and fathers; not to anyone who wants it.

If you want women to respect God’s hierarchy, you have to respect it yourself.

To presume to exercise fatherly power, or even brotherly …