Fewer men, more women having sex

Around ’10 or ’11, there was a significant shift in the “relationship marketplace.” We can sum up this shift with two trends that Michael noticed happened in his church circles:

First, many Christian men who were above-average in overall quality (e.g. health, looks, ambition, etc) started struggling to get girlfriends. At first, Michael thought these guys were just being too picky, or had some other major deficiency. There are plenty of losers out there. But as the pattern emerged he realized that this wasn’t the case. These men certainly weren’t perfect, but they were still good quality, and they had very reasonable standards for women.

Second, he noticed that many Christian women who were below-average in overall quality (e.g. beauty, personality, temperament, etc) started developing a fear of committed relationships, and getting extremely picky about men. They would often complain that there weren’t any good men out there. But there were good men. They just thought those men were ben…